The Success Solution: How You May be Preventing your Own Success

Recently, I worked with a client who found himself in a couple of situations many of us have either experienced, or fear experiencing. He called me, feeling down, frustrated and anxious about his future. In the same week, he was laid off at work and experienced the end of a six-year relationship. Ouch!

As we explored his situation, we discovered a couple of things. First, he really didn’t like his job and it was not leading him towards the financial success he desired. And second, the relationship that ended was an unhappy one for quite some time. Yet, he wanted to hold on to both of them and felt upset over what had occurred.

You see, many of us find ourselves in similar situations in life. We have something that isn’t quite what we want, but if we were to lose it, great fear and insecurity arises.

Why?

There are two forces that drive your life and prevent you from really having what you desire: attachments and aversions.

We become attached to what is comfortable for us — i.e., things that give us a false sense of having what we want; things that temporarily make us feel better for brief moments, only to leave us feeling rotten later. These attachments can include unfulfilling jobs, relationships that lack passion, bad habits such as smoking or overeating, and thousands of other possibilities.

Our attachments often prevent us from making the space in our life to have what we really desire. If life is a buffet, we have our plates full of food we don’t really like, meaning there isn’t any room for dessert.

Hanging on to that unfulfilling job for its false sense of security prevented this man from finding work he feels excited about doing — or starting a business of his own. His attachment to the mediocre relationship prevented him from exploring new possibilities and meeting someone who really loved him, and someone he really loved in turn.

When he saw this for himself, his energy took a dramatic turn in the positive direction. He saw new opportunity in his life instead of fear and loss. This one simple realization could likely change the course of his entire life.

We also have aversions. These are the things in life that feel uncomfortable to us. It could be making an important phone call, or asking out someone we are really attracted to, or getting in front of a room and sharing our brilliance. Aversions prevent us from moving forward, taking action and manifesting what we desire. Aversions prevent you from acting on your immense potential.

What are attachments and aversions and how can we overcome them?

Attachments and aversions are nothing more than feelings. Many of us say “I am frustrated” — but the truth is, “I feel frustrated.” I am having a feeling; I am not the feeling.

There is a wonderful technique called the Sedona Method that teaches a simple set of techniques that allow us to effortlessly “let go” of any unwanted thought or feeling — any attachment or aversion. With these blocks removed, you will feel more confidence, and more at ease and more willing to take the bold actions that produce success.

We can fight and struggle and force our way to success. We really can. I know. I have done it. But, ultimately, it is a hard, stressful, frustrating journey. I think you know what I mean.

Or, we can learn to easily overcome the resistance that creates a flow to life. When we overcome our attachments and aversions, we become truly free to be, do and have whatever we desire. It’s easy. It really is.

I encourage you to learn more about any program that teaches you to “let go.” It is the most powerful personal development tool I have ever learned. My favorite program on the market is the Sedona Method course — the original, and still the best, program of its kind.

The link below offers a free newsletter to learn more, and you can also order a free 2-hour DVD and introductory CD that includes a demonstration of one of the basic releasing techniques they teach. I encourage you to experience this program for yourself and discover the exhilarating possibility of true freedom from your attachments and aversions.

Wishing you all the success and abundance you can allow into your life,

posted by: John R. Barker

Our vision is our primary means of relationship to the world around us. Of the five physical senses, vision is the most dominant and useful sense.

Yet, over half the people in this country (U.S.A) wear glasses or contacts. Needing corrective-lenses to see clearly is now considered normal, though there are ways to have better vision naturally without the use of any artificial means and complicated procedures like surgery. In this , I will disclose 5 keys to naturally better vision that has been tried and tested by thousands of individuals over years.

Key#1 Blink Regularly: Blinking is a natural preserver of your better vision. Blinking cleanses and lubricates the eyes. When there is no tension, your eyes blink 10-12 times every minute, or about once every 5 seconds. But people who do not see clearly tend to stare and unconsciously hold their eyes open, which causes strain as well as the feeling of dry and tired eyes. Consciously remind yourself to blink every 3-5 seconds. The more you blink the better it is for your eyes. Your eyelid is controlled by only one muscle. By having proper relaxation in that muscle, it can promote relaxation throughout the entire body. Flutter Blinking: To practice Flutter Blinking, blink your eyes lightly and rapidly 10 to 20 times. Do not strain or squeeze your eyes shut and relax your face as you blink. Then close your eyes and relax. Repeat this 2 or 3 times. Flutter Blinking will help to keep your eyes moist, relaxed and free of strain.

Key#2 Use your Peripheral Vision Your eyes may be offering you more than you realize. At the same time that you are focusing on one object, images are also coming into your eyes from your peripheral awareness – from the left and the right, and from the front of and behind what you are directly looking at. But unfortunately, people with poor vision have trained their minds to so intently focus on just one thing that they block out their peripheral awareness. This “putting on of blinders” breeds mental fatigue and a tense style of concentration. Whatever you are looking at, always remind yourself to be aware of your peripheral vision. Consciously remember to be aware of everything at the same time that you are looking at one point.

Key#3 Keep your Eyes Moving and Change your Focus. Staring is the most commonly practiced bad habit in regards to poor vision. Keeping your eyes moving and changing your focus is the most direct and powerful way to break the staring habit. Normally, the eye moves slightly 50-60 times every single second, constantly changing what it is looking at. This subtle movement is essential for clear vision; you can unlock tension in your visual system by remembering to change your focus frequently. This encourages your eyes to become more relaxed.
Whatever you may be doing with your eyes, you should always remember to shift your focus and keep your eyes moving.

Key#4 Avoid Daydreaming The word daydreaming is used to mean any mental activity – whether or not it involves images, that captures a person’s focus while their eyes are open. There isn’t anything wrong with the creative use of the imagination, but when daydreaming becomes a habit it can have a negative effect on your vision. Here’s why: If you close your eyes and imagine looking at a distant scene, your eyes respond to that, and change their focus, as they would if they were actually looking at that distant scene. So, if you’re driving down the road and you’re thinking about something else, your eyes are caught in a dilemma – what should they be seeing? On the one hand, they are trying to bring the road into focus and on the other hand, are trying to focus on what’s in your mind. This causes you to stare, creates visual tension and sends mixed messages to your brain.

Key#5 Look with the “Eyes of a Child” Engage in your world as a child would – with excitement, freshness, awe and wonder – as if you are seeing everything for the first time. If you are remembering to blink, to move your eyes and shift focus, to use your peripheral vision and to avoid daydreaming, you can get stuck in the trap of just mechanically using your eyes. There’s a big difference between seeing and actively looking. There’s always something new and different to notice.

Apply these 5 tips consciously and regularly and you’ll find that not only will your eyes start to feel more relaxed but your seeing will become clearer! Enjoy